Compatibility of 甲 with 癸: Yang Wood and Yin Water

Soft spring rain falls on fresh green leaves. The tree is Yang Wood; the rain is Yin Water, gentle and steady. For the tree, the rain is Direct Resource, the star of nurturing and protection. The tree tends to feel calmer and more looked after in this bond. For the rain, the tree is the Hurting Officer, the star of talent and frank speech.

Around the tree, the rain often becomes more creative and more outspoken. Sometimes too outspoken: kind care can come with sharp comments. The tree may take the rain for granted, like weather that's always there. It helps to notice the little things the rain does. And the rain does well to give care without a lecture attached. Then the leaves keep growing and the clouds feel seen.

Gentle care meets a bright spark; it thrives when care comes without criticism.

Every tree remembers the rain that came at the right time. Here the rain is gentle Yin Water, and the tree drinks it in. For the tree, the rain is Direct Resource, the star of nurturing, like a mother's care. For the rain, the tree is the Hurting Officer, the star of boldness and plain speaking. In plain words: the rain looks after the tree, and the tree gives the rain courage to speak up.

The tree may take that care for granted or brush off the rain's worries. The rain may hear the tree's bluntness as ingratitude. Too much rain can soak the roots, so caring shouldn't turn into fussing. A short word of thanks keeps the rain gentle. Over time, they tend to become each other's safest place.

The rain nurtures and the tree speaks up; thanks and a light touch keep it sweet.

Gentle rain falls on a tree, soaking in slowly, never flooding. This child is that rain. Water feeds Wood, and the child is the mother's Direct Resource: steady, caring support. She often feels looked after by this child, even in small ways. A phone call, a cup of tea, a quiet word at the right time.

For the child, she is the Hurting Officer, the star of voice and rebellion. Around her, the child tends to get talkative, creative, sometimes defiant. She brings out what they really think. The risk is that the child gives and gives, then runs dry. Even rain needs sunny days in between. Saying thank you out loud keeps this one sweet.

A caring child and a mother who draws out their voice; gratitude keeps the care flowing.

Light rain soaks into the ground, and the old tree drinks it in. The daughter tends to nourish her father quietly. To him, she is the Direct Resource, the star of care and comfort. He may feel looked after by her.

To her, he is the Hurting Officer, the star of the bold voice. He might say blunt things that rattle her. Choosing softer words, and laughing it off when he slips, helps a lot.

She cares for him gently, and he does best when he softens his blunt remarks.

Soft spring rain falls on an old tree, and the leaves come back green. The daughter-in-law is the rain. To the mother-in-law, she is Direct Resource, the star of nurturing care. The older woman can feel truly looked after by her son's partner.

To the daughter-in-law, the mother-in-law is Hurting Officer, the star of frank, clever speech. She may speak freely around her, even bluntly. Sometimes she corrects or teases more than she means to. Most of the time this is closeness, not disrespect. A softer tone at family tables saves many sore feelings.

The daughter-in-law cares deeply; she just needs to watch her tongue.