Compatibility of 癸 with 甲: Yin Water and Yang Wood

A spring shower soaks a young oak, and it grows fast. For the tree, the rain is Direct Resource, the star of care and backing. For the rain, the tree is the Hurting Officer, the star of wit and talent. The rain tends to nurture the tree's growth. With the tree, the rain grows bold and expressive.

The rain may give until empty. The tree may not notice. The rain's frankness can also sound like criticism. Thank the giver often and help in return. Say the hard things gently, at a quiet time.

A nurturing match: the rain helps the tree grow, and thanks keep the rain coming.

Every gardener knows a young tree loves a gentle spring rain. The rain sibling tends to feed and comfort the tree sibling like that. To the tree, the rain is the Direct Resource, the star of care and nurture. To the rain, the tree is the Hurting Officer, the star of bold talent and frank talk. The tree sibling often says what the rain sibling holds back.

The rain can give until it's tired. The tree may grow tall and forget where the water came from. Blunt words from the tree can hurt the soft-spoken rain. It helps when the tree says thank you often. The rain can say no without feeling guilty. Then both grow, each in their own way.

Nurture one way and boldness the other; thanks and a kind no keep it healthy.

After a dry week, rain falls on a young oak, and by morning its leaves are greener. This mother is the gentle rain and the child is the tree. For the child, she is Direct Resource, the star of care and nourishment. She tends to feed them quietly and faithfully. For her, the child is the Hurting Officer, the star of big talent and bold speech. This child tends to grow tall and speak up early.

A tall tree drinks a lot of rain. She may give until she's tired. The child may be strong-willed and test her rules out loud. What helps is pacing. She looks after herself as well as the child. She lets them grow in their own direction. The child, in turn, can learn to thank the rain.

A nourishing bond where a gentle mother raises a bold child; it works when she looks after herself too.

Soft spring rain falls on a young oak, and it shoots up in a single season. This father tends to feed his daughter's growth like that. To her, he is her Direct Resource, the star of care, learning and protection. She often grows big and sure of herself on his quiet support.

To him, she is his Hurting Officer, the star of talent and bold, frank words. She may outgrow him and tell him so, plainly. The friction comes when he gives so much he feels drained. Her honesty may also feel like rejection. It helps when he guards his own energy. It helps when she keeps thanking him as she grows.

He tends to quietly feed his daughter's growth; her gratitude keeps him from feeling drained.

A gentle shower falls on a young oak, and every leaf drinks it in. The mother-in-law is the rain; the daughter-in-law the growing tree. To the younger woman, the older one is the Direct Resource, the star of nurture and protection. She tends to give in quiet, steady ways. To the mother-in-law, the younger is the Hurting Officer, the star of wit and frank talk. In plain words: the daughter-in-law grows strong with this care, and isn't shy about her views.

A tall tree can forget the rain that fed it. The older woman may feel her help goes unnoticed. Blunt opinions from the younger woman can wear on her. Small, regular signs of gratitude make a big difference. The mother-in-law, in turn, can let the tree grow in its own shape.

The older woman nourishes quietly; gratitude and freedom to grow keep it sweet.