Compatibility of 辛 with 壬: Yin Metal and Yang Water

Wash a jewel in clean, running water and it sparkles. The old texts love this image. For the river, the jewel is Direct Resource, the star of care and backing. For the jewel, the river is the Hurting Officer, the star of wit and talent. With the river, the jewel tends to feel bright, witty and seen.

The jewel may give and give, then feel drained. The river may get used to being looked after. Bold words can also flow too freely. Make giving go both ways. Plan rest for the jewel, and thank the jewel often.

A shining match: the river shows off the jewel, as long as care flows back.

The old books love one picture: a jewel washed clean in a clear stream. These siblings tend to bring out each other's shine. To the jewel sibling, the river is the Hurting Officer, the star of talent and bold speech. The river sibling often helps the jewel express ideas and be seen. To the river, the jewel is the Direct Resource, the star of support and care. The jewel quietly feeds the river's plans.

A strong current can also carry the jewel away. The river sibling may speak too freely, or take the jewel's help for granted. The jewel may feel tired from giving. It helps to agree on what each can give, and when. A thank-you from the river is worth a lot. Then the stream stays clear for both.

They bring out each other's best; balanced giving keeps it clear.

A gem rinsed in clear river water comes out sparkling. The old books say this metal loves this water most. Here the mother is the gem and the child is the river. For the child, she is Direct Resource, the star of care and protection. She tends to be the steady source they draw from. For her, the child is the Hurting Officer, the star of brilliant talent and free speech. Around this child, she tends to shine.

That boldness can feel like a flood. The child may question everything, and she may feel overwhelmed. They can be restless where she wants calm. What helps is giving the child's energy somewhere to go. Music, sport, debate, travel. She can admire their spark without trying to tame it. The child, in turn, can slow down when she asks.

A bright bond where the mother nurtures a gifted, outspoken child; an outlet for their energy keeps it clear.

In an old town square, a fountain pours from a silver spout. The spout is small, but the water never stops. This father tends to give to his daughter like that. To her, he is her Direct Resource, the star of care, guidance and learning. She often grows wide and confident on his support.

To him, she is his Hurting Officer, the star of talent and bold words. She may show him, quite plainly, a side of himself he didn't know. The friction comes when he pours out too much and runs low. Her bluntness may also sting his pride. It helps when he sets limits on his giving. It helps when she remembers how much he gives.

He tends to give his daughter steady support, and she keeps him honest; limits help both.

Gem hunters wash their stones in clear river water to see their true colour. The old books say this metal loves exactly that kind of water. Here the mother-in-law is the gem, the daughter-in-law the river. To the younger woman, the older one is the Direct Resource, the star of care and backing. To the mother-in-law, the younger is the Hurting Officer, the star of wit and talent. In plain words: the daughter-in-law makes the older woman shine, often by speaking frankly.

A strong river can also carry things away. The younger woman's opinions may flow faster than the older one can take. The mother-in-law may feel her ways are being swept aside. It helps when the daughter-in-law slows down and asks. The older woman can enjoy the cleverness rather than take it personally.

A lively, brightening bond; slower talk and an open mind keep it clear.