Compatibility of 庚 with 癸: Yang Metal and Yin Water

Hear the rain drumming on a metal roof. It's lively, and it never stops talking. For the sword, the rain is the Hurting Officer, the star of wit and frank talk. For the rain, the sword is Direct Resource, the star of care and backing. The sword tends to support the rain. With the rain, the sword grows chatty and bold.

Too much rain can rust metal, traditionally. The sword may feel worn down by giving. Sharp words can slip out on both sides. A rule of no teasing in front of others helps. Rest days for the sword matter too.

Support and wit go together here; mind the tongue and protect the giver's energy.

Rain on a steel roof makes a sharp, clear sound. That's the talk between these siblings: lively and sometimes loud. To the sword sibling, the rain is the Hurting Officer, the star of cleverness and frank words. The rain sibling tends to question, tease and poke holes in plans. To the rain, the sword is the Direct Resource, the star of protection and care. The sword often looks after the rain like an older guardian.

The rain's words can wear the steel down over time. The sword sibling may feel criticized after giving so much. The rain may feel the sword is too rigid to hear anything new. It helps when the rain chooses kind words and good timing. And the sword can treat questions as care, not attack. Then their talks get sharper and warmer.

Protection one way and clever questions the other; kind timing makes it work.

On a cold morning, dew gathers on a metal gate. The metal gives the water a place to form. In this pair the mother is the metal and the child is the fine rain. For the child, she is Direct Resource, the star of care and protection. She tends to be the safe base they come back to. For her, the child is the Hurting Officer, the star of clever talent and speaking out. This child often sees through her and says so.

Those words can sting. She may feel criticised by someone she has given so much. The child may feel she's too strict or too cold. What helps is warmth in the small things. She lets the child's cleverness count, and asks for their ideas. The child learns that honesty lands better with kindness.

A protective bond with a sharp-eyed child; it works when she welcomes their honesty and they add kindness.

Take a cold metal jug out on a hot day, and drops gather on its sides. Water seems to come from nowhere. This father tends to give to his daughter in that steady, quiet way. To her, he is her Direct Resource, the star of protection, care and learning.

To him, she is his Hurting Officer, the star of wit and frank talk. She often says what she sees, even about him. The friction comes when her words feel like criticism, or he gives until he's drained. It helps when she wraps her honesty in kindness. It helps when he keeps a little back for himself.

He tends to support his daughter steadily, and kind honesty from her keeps the bond easy.

After a storm, raindrops run down a steel gate and leave it clean and bright. The daughter-in-law is that rain; the mother-in-law is the metal. To the younger woman, the older one is the Direct Resource, the star of care and backing. The mother-in-law often helps more than she lets on. To her, the daughter-in-law is the Hurting Officer, the star of wit and frank opinions. In plain words: the younger one may say what nobody else dares to.

Clever comments can sound like criticism to the older woman. Over time she may feel her help isn't valued. Things go better when the daughter-in-law says what she appreciates, not only what she'd change. The mother-in-law, in turn, can laugh at a sharp joke instead of taking it to heart.

The older woman supports and the younger one speaks frankly; thanks and humour keep the steel bright.