Compatibility of 丁 with 戊: Yin Fire and Yang Earth

High on a mountain, a lantern glows in a stone hut. The candle is Yin Fire; the mountain is Yang Earth. Fire warms earth, so the candle tends to feed the mountain. For the mountain, the candle is Direct Resource, the star of nurturing and care. The mountain often feels warmed and looked after here.

For the candle, the mountain is the Hurting Officer, the star of talent and frank speech. Around the mountain, the candle tends to speak up and push back. But a big mountain can swallow a small flame, as the old books note. The candle may spend itself and grow dim. It helps for the mountain to give warmth back. And for the candle to keep some fuel for itself.

Caring and frank; it lasts when the small flame is fed too.

In a stone hut high on a mountain, one small lamp makes it a home. The candle is that lamp, and the mountain is the hut. For the mountain, the candle is Direct Resource, the star of nurture and steady warmth. For the candle, the mountain is the Hurting Officer, the star of blunt, independent views. In plain words: the candle warms the mountain quietly, and the mountain speaks up for both when it counts.

A small flame can't heat a whole mountain, though. The candle may wear itself out trying. The mountain may seem cold or ungrateful, though it rarely means to. The candle should give what feels comfortable, not everything it has. The mountain can show thanks in deeds, which it's usually good at.

The candle warms and the mountain protects; giving within limits keeps both happy.

A small flame burns at the foot of a big mountain. It warms the rock, but it can feel tiny there. The mother is the flame, the child is the mountain. Fire feeds Earth, so she nourishes this child. For the child, she is the Direct Resource: dependable care and a safe place.

The child is her Hurting Officer, the star of independence and sharp words. This child tends to have strong opinions and go their own way. She may feel small, tired or ignored. Too much earth can smother a little fire. What helps is the child noticing her effort out loud. She can also keep some warmth for herself.

A caring mother and a strong-minded child; open thanks keep her flame going.

A small lamp glows inside a hut high on a mountain. The father's warmth helps his daughter feel at home. To her, he is the Direct Resource, the star of nurturing and protection. She tends to rely on his care.

To him, she is the Hurting Officer, the star of strong will and frank talk. She can be stubborn as rock, and blunt. Taking her honesty calmly, and pacing his giving, keeps his flame from wearing down.

He shelters her warmly, and it helps if he takes her frankness calmly and saves some energy for himself.

Lamplight falls on an old stone wall, warming the rough surface. The mother-in-law is the lamp, the daughter-in-law the stone. To the younger woman, she is Direct Resource, the star of motherly care. She can feel safe and supported.

To the mother-in-law, the daughter-in-law is Hurting Officer, the star of talent and frank words. She is capable and has her own way. That can wear on the older woman's small flame. She may feel tired or second-guessed. Thanking her for the care, and asking her advice now and then, keeps the lamp burning.

Steady care from the mother-in-law; the daughter-in-law does well to ask, not tell.